Why Prioritizing Yourself Isn’t Selfish—It’s Essential
How often do you feel guilty for putting yourself first? Many of us have been conditioned to believe that prioritizing ourselves is selfish. We’ve been taught to give endlessly, put others first, and ignore our own needs. But the truth is, taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential.
As an expressive arts therapist and mental health counselor, I see this struggle all the time. Clients come to me overwhelmed, exhausted, and unsure how to set boundaries without guilt. This post will explore why prioritizing yourself is a necessity, not a luxury, and how expressive arts therapy can help you embrace self-care without shame.
The Truth About Prioritizing Yourself
Let’s set the record straight: prioritizing yourself doesn’t mean neglecting others. It means making sure you have the energy, emotional balance, and mental clarity to show up as your best self—for yourself and those around you.
Think of your energy like a well. If you keep drawing water without replenishing it, the well runs dry. Prioritizing yourself is about filling your well so that you can continue to give from a place of abundance rather than depletion.
Common Barriers to Prioritizing Yourself
1. Guilt
Many people feel guilty when they take time for themselves. They worry they are being selfish or neglecting their responsibilities.
🔹 Reframe it: Taking care of yourself allows you to show up more fully for others. When you’re well-rested and emotionally balanced, you can give from a place of joy rather than obligation.
2. Fear of Disappointing Others
Saying “no” can feel uncomfortable, especially if you’re used to being the go-to person for everyone else’s needs.
🔹 Reframe it: Every time you say "yes" to something you don’t truly want, you are saying "no" to yourself. Setting boundaries isn’t about shutting people out—it’s about making space for what truly matters.
3. The Need to Be Productive 24/7
We live in a culture that glorifies busyness. Resting or engaging in self-care can feel like a waste of time.
🔹 Reframe it: Rest isn’t a reward; it’s a necessity. Creativity, problem-solving, and emotional resilience thrive when we take breaks and care for ourselves.
How Expressive Arts Therapy Supports Self-Prioritization
Expressive arts therapy is a powerful way to explore and overcome the emotional blocks that keep you from prioritizing yourself. Engaging in creative activities can help you:
🎨 Process emotions: Art, movement, music, or writing can help you express feelings of guilt, fear, or self-doubt in a safe, nonjudgmental way.
📝 Clarify your needs: Journaling or visual art can help you recognize what you truly need to feel fulfilled and balanced.
🎭 Practice self-expression: Through role-playing or movement-based exercises, you can practice setting boundaries and asserting your needs.
🖌 Reclaim joy: Creativity is inherently nourishing. Doing something purely for enjoyment reminds you that you deserve time for yourself.
Practical Ways to Start Prioritizing Yourself Today
✅ Set Boundaries Without Apology
Start small—say “no” to one thing that drains your energy this week.
Use a simple script: “I appreciate you asking, but I can’t commit to that right now.”
✅ Schedule “Me Time” Like an Appointment
Block out time in your calendar for rest, creativity, or self-care.
Treat it with the same importance as a work meeting or social event.
✅ Use Expressive Arts to Tune Into Yourself
Try a five-minute journaling exercise: What do I need right now?
Create a visual representation of your boundaries using collage or drawing.
✅ Silence the Inner Critic
If guilt creeps in, remind yourself: Prioritizing myself helps me show up better for others, too.
Conclusion
Prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish—it’s an act of self-respect. When you take care of yourself, you bring more energy, presence, and joy into every area of your life.
💬 How do you make time for yourself? Share your thoughts in the comments!
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